Yes Mean Yes

I have a good friend who often agrees to tasks that he does not have time for. Later he's reeling over his decisions saying "I wish I hadn't agreed to this" or "...now I have to do that". After listening to him complain about this countless times, I recommended he get out of the habit of responding right away. Listen to the request, ask questions, get the information you need to make the decision, but give yourself time to determine the best answer for you. In short, respond "let me get back to you on that." 

Often times, in the pressure or simply the speed of the moment, we agree to do things that we otherwise wouldn't have. It could be simple things like giving your time to less worthy causes or agreeing to something you're slowly growing out of. Further, when we are uncertain about where we stand on a matter, it can be easy for people to nudge us in one direction or another. 

My grandmother used to say "Give yourself time, you don't want to have to repeat yourself." As you grow in maturity and wisdom, keep in mind that your thoughts and stances on various matters also change. So, my friend, as you interact with people, especially people you have extended history with, give yourself time. Think through your answers. Let your yes mean yes and your no mean no.